Musings and Deconstructions
Since being back here in my beautiful hometown in Canada I have been connecting with lots of old friends. It’s been amazing seeing everyone and catching up on what everyone has been up to in the time that’s passed since we saw each other last. As expected, many a life milestone has come and gone for people- job changes, promotions, marriage announcements and in some cases even babies. And I am so happy and proud of my friends for pursuing these things that genuinely bring them happiness and joy.
Different Timelines and Milestones for Millennials
Then there are people who I have met and chatted with recently who tell me their worried that they aren’t hitting the same milestones at the same time as others. That they are somehow late or not on time with what they are “supposed to be doing”. And I have to admit to being a bit puzzled by this. According to what timeline are they late? According to who’s schedule are they not hitting certain milestones that they are supposed to? I’m sorry, but our generation of millennials can hardly be expected to look at our parents and grandparents timelines as relevant blueprints for our own. Their life circumstances, economies and social conditions were totally different back then. The only thing that seems to have hung over from then are outdated social pressures to be doing “certain things at certain times”. And as for comparing yourself to the peers around you- well one needs to ask themselves if they want the same life as their peers? I love this quote below because it basically sums up my thinking on the matter:
So to all my friends or anyone reading this who feels that their timelines is “off schedule”- I suggest instead of stressing about what others think, perhaps shift your focus to what you think. What makes you happy? What are your priorities in life? What are the goals you wish to achieve that will make you fulfilled? What are your passions? If those things are some of the same milestones that mainstream society prescribes that by all means, go for it! And put your all into pursuing those things!! But if you are looking for things outside of the mainstream prescribed narrative of the “good life”, then you gotta own your own vision of that and commit to it. Know that you are marching to the beat of your own drum, and that you are right where you are and need to be to be pursuing that. Don’t be scared and don’t be deterred. Know that many others like you are out there who are doing the same thing.
This wasn’t written with the intention of comparing one type of lifestyle and goals to another. Everyone is valid in their choices. After all, it’s your life and your choice. Just do what you like and don’t worry about others is all this note is trying to remind you of. You are right where you need to be and don’t forget that!
Moving from Makeup in Canada to Movies in India
One year ago, I decided to switch things up a bit and move from Canada to my home country of India. I was happy enough working in the makeup and beauty blogging space in Canada, but as I was also doing some TV presenting work and had trained in acting, I was curious what those industries were like in India. The plan was to move to Mumbai for 3 months and check it out. Little did I know, that was going to go out the window, and I was going to end up making my debut into the Indian film industry in a quirky, “masala” rom-com movie!
I arrived in “The City of Dreams” as Bombay is called due, I think, to the droves of people who come here to India’s entertainment capital to try to make it in the biz. I found a flat in the sort of noveau-hipster arty neighborhood of Bandra. I started seeking out agencies to represent me as a beauty influencer and presenter.
I earnestly began reaching out to makeup and skincare brands to offer beauty influencer services and I became the digital face for a home grown Indian beauty brand called MyGlamm (read about my full journey with the brand here). But beauty blogging responsibilities started to become eclipsed by a busy modelling calendar. Every week it seemed I was flying to some new city in the South of India for TV commercials and photoshoots. I was curious as to why the South of India was such a hot spot for work and discovered its thriving regional cinema scene- Tollywood. The second largest film industry in India after Bollywood, with budgets and box office returns rivalling and in recent years, surpassing Bollywood.
But at the time, my three month stay in India was coming to a close and I was casting my eyes back to Canada and a job in the beauty industry in Toronto. I guess the universe had some different plans for me, because quite literally out of the blue, I received a phone call explaining that I had to get on a flight to South India the next day because a director in the Tollywood film industry wanted to meet me based off some pictures and some TV clips he had seen of me. I got on the plane with no idea or expectations of what was to come… and that’s where the story really gets away from me.
I was given the role on the spot after auditioning and delivering lines to the director in a language that is completely foreign to me. I can speak Hindi, but in Tollywood they speak Telugu which is a completely different language- more akin to English and Greek then let’s say French and Spanish where maybe there are some cross over words. I would have never guessed in a million years I would be making the transition from being a beauty blogger/model to an actor so quickly!
I was thrown into a world that was simultaneously so new to me, but somehow familiar. As a vlogger and presenter I was used to facing the camera. But I had never had to call on my acting skills in a meaningful way. All of a sudden I was exercising this new muscle and doing workshops with the production team, flying to new locations constantly, shooting insanely long days and trying to navigate a brand new culture. It was QUITE the experience, and I’ve tried to keep a little video diary of it all which you can check out here!
By the end of the shoot I was totally drained and exhausted but so happy- and yes, proud of myself. I had done a movie!! I had made new friends, had had a totally new and unique experience, and have opened the door to many more new things for me in India. I have lovely people sharing their encouragement and support for me and if any of you are reading this- thank you so much. I see all your messages and comments and they mean so much! That plan to stay in India for a short time has certainly changed a lot, as I now plan to make a homebase of sorts here and continue acting, modelling and yes, my original love- beauty blogging and travel blogging right here on Beauty Nomad! Hope you check in for more stories from this little hippie soon!